Time Did Not Heal All My Wounds

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Learning About Mindfulness In The 2016 Virginia International Conference On Psychology Of Education

Both experts and laypeople flocked to the 2016 Virginia International Conference on Psychology of Education. Among the many topics and lectures held was one of mindfulness and its importance in...

Time Did Not Heal All My Wounds

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I am Meredith, a 48-year-old nurse in Ohio. I just got promoted to a supervising position in a hospital I’ve been working at for almost 15 years now. My two sons, aged 21 and 15, are healthy and already taller than me. My youngest kid is getting ready for senior high now, while my eldest is close to finishing his bachelor’s degree. I can say that my life is far better than ever.

However, things had not always been excellent. In truth, I have post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). I acquired that illness after suffering from domestic abuse, which was inflicted by the father of my children.

My Story

When I met John, he was working as an engineer at a tech company near the clinic where I was doing an internship at the time. He was smart, funny, tall, and gorgeous. After a familiar friend introduced us to each other, we hit it off right away.

Our dating phase-only happened in six months. I was so in love with him; I thought he’s the one. Naturally, I said ‘yes’ when he asked for my hand, even though my family was hesitant about it. I thought, “We had enough savings to buy a small house, John’s earning well, and I won’t need to work another day again.” That was honestly the case while I was still pregnant with my firstborn.

Only, after I gave birth to our second baby, the tech company where my husband was employed filed for bankruptcy. John had a hard time getting another job, but I did not worry much at the time because I had this idealistic notion that our savings would get us through life. But then again, a few months of buying diapers and baby formula and clothes and paying for house bills, we found ourselves with only a hundred bucks to our name.

That was when John became addicted to alcohol. He would drink every time he’d come home from a failed job interview. He would drink whenever I’d tell him that we need to buy something for the house. Once I try to take the bottle of liquor from him, he would yell at me and tell me his life got ruined when he married me. Sometimes, John would shout at our kids as well, and then we’d fight, and he would end up hitting me.

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How I Got Out

None of those incidents became known to my family for a while. I didn’t want to tell them because I was hoping the guy I married would come back. I would borrow money from my parents, but I could not say that John stopped trying to get a job a long time ago.

I only reached my breaking point when I came home one day and saw my eldest son underneath his bed, shaking, because his father hit him with a belt. In that instant, I packed as much as I could, went to my family’s house, and never looked back. The pain that my husband brought to me and my kids was beyond too much already.

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The Reality

After that incident, John somehow never bothered to call or ask us to come back. My sister helped me get a job in a hospital in Ohio, too. It was a bit far from my parents’ place, but I chose to relocate my children there so that they could forget the ordeal we had to go through as well.

I act tough on the outside and say that I have moved on from what happened 15 years ago, but the truth is that I still have nightmares from that day. I regret not leaving John when he hit me the first time. I regret choosing to lie to my family because I didn’t want to have a broken marriage. Most of all, I regret giving him a chance to traumatize my children like that.

It has been 15 years, but time has not healed all my wounds.…

What To Do When PTSD Comorbid With Anxiety

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When you have post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), it will not take too long to get diagnosed with anxiety as well. In truth, the latter is one of the significant symptoms of PTSD. I have heard of patients who cannot even open their windows in fear of someone watching their actions through that. Other individuals who have come from the war zone tend to jump whenever they hear a loud bang, regardless if it’s from a pot knocked off the counter or a book that actor smacked on the table on a TV show.

Life is undoubtedly tricky for people with post-traumatic stress disorder, especially when it comorbid with anxiety. The examples given above are still considered mild. In worst cases, there may be too many unrealistic ideas running through the patients’ mind, to the extent that they no longer know what’s real or not. That is when their behavior becomes erratic, and some even end up harming others before killing themselves.

Nevertheless, the fact that you are in this blog, reading this article, tells me that you don’t want yourself or a loved one with PTSD to have the same fate as those people mentioned above. Because of that, you should learn a few practical techniques to beat the manifestation of such mental illnesses.

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  1. Take A Deep Breath

The first thing to realize is that panic attacks occur when you are dealing with anxiety. It typically means that you lose control of yourself and even forget your ability to breathe. Before it happens again, therefore, you need to teach yourself to take deep breaths to make sure that your brain and lungs get a steady supply of oxygen. That may allow you to think more clearly and realize that your fears are all in mind.

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  1. Try Meditating

Meditation is always recommended for anyone who has mental health issues. The reason is that the diseases target your brain and rob you of your cognitive skills. Even if your eyes can see the reality, to be specific, your mind cannot process that. Feel free to try different meditating techniques until you find the most suitable one for you.

  1. Keep Tabs On Yourself

It does not hurt to maintain a record book or chart that will help you to monitor your condition. It can be a daily log of the symptoms you have experienced, what you have done to overcome them, or how you have prevented a panic attack from coming. Keeping tabs on yourself this way gives you an actual idea of what’s happening with you.

  1. Don’t Stay Alone For A Long Period

Considering your friends or family members offer to stay with you throughout this ordeal, you should let them do that. Now is not the time to act too proud, as if you don’t need help. It is not good to be too shy either and think that you may get in their way. These people will not be offering to keep you company if you are a burden to them. Besides, it matters for you to have others to depend on now because you can’t trust your brain right now.

In The End

There is no cure for PTSD or anxiety. It may not be easy to detach yourself from either or both at once as well, especially if you have been living with the mental illnesses for years. However, if you are determined to beat them, who’s to say that you cannot do that in the long run?

Good luck!…

Therapist Explains Complex PTSD

I think you already know what PTSD or post-traumatic stress disorder is. It is a mental health condition that a lot of people developed after witnessing or experiencing any life-threatening, dangerous, or scary event. Anxiety and depression become extreme with it too. There are cases that an individual who experiences it also endures panic attacks and flashbacks as well. There are quite a few physical reactions, too, such as muscle tension, sweating, and increased heart rate. But, how about complex PTSD? What is it, and how does a therapist differentiate it from the usual PTSD we know?

A lot of us may question what exactly PTSD brings in our lives. Well, no one can genuinely capture the severity of its psychological harm, not unless there is a repeated and prolonged trauma that occurs. However, what most of us did not know is that post-traumatic stress disorder can also come from a single terrible life event that happens repeatedly. Yes, the existence of the condition does not have to develop from multiple stressful or depressing situations. It can be a specific moment where the psychological and emotional aspects get damaged severely. It is where when someone experience being scared, worried, and helpless all at the same time, in one particular event that gets prolonged.…

Recent Developments In The Psychological Treatment Of PTSD

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a psychological condition and illness that results from experiencing first hand, or vicariously, a traumatic event. War survivors, veterans, and victims of crime are those usually inflicted with PTSD. At present, there are two established and effective psychological therapies patients suffering from the illness can undergo: trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy, and eye movement desensitization. Scientists, psychologists, and doctors are further exploring new ways to treat the disorder as it is debilitating to a patient’s way of life.…

The 2016 Baltimore International Meeting For Research

Attending meetings and conferences are essential if you want to become better in your chosen career or profession. It is necessary that you learn how to interact with others, especially those who belong to the same professional field as you are so that you can gain a better understanding of how to do your job well. One of the meaningful events that I attend was the 2016 Baltimore International Meeting For Research.



I can clearly remember how surprised I was when I found out that I have been invited to attend an international meeting. At first, I was hesitant to travel to Baltimore for the said conference. I felt that I was not ready to face other researchers and colleagues whom I believe have better experiences and skills than I do. However, things turned out to be amazing during the said meeting. I gained new friends who helped me to advance my career. At the same time, I also learned new lessons and skills about my usual work.


I am sharing this to everyone to encourage each one of you to take a leap and avoid missing chances. When you are given an opportunity to travel abroad or attend a significant event that has something to do with your profession, then make sure to grab it. Always remember that life is not all about easy decisions but also risky choices. Take note that life is so much better if you learn how to love your job and accept the obligations or responsibilities that come with it.



At the same time, do not forget to be friendly and kind to everyone you meet during the conferences, meetings, and events that you attend. You will be surprised by how great attitude can help you build your career from small to big. You have to trust me with this because attending the 2016 Baltimore International Meeting For Research changed my life. Learn how to connect with the right individuals!


Learning About Mindfulness In The 2016 Virginia International Conference On Psychology Of Education

Both experts and laypeople flocked to the 2016 Virginia International Conference on Psychology of Education. Among the many topics and lectures held was one of mindfulness and its importance in our daily lives.

What Is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is a practice that’s been around for a long time. It’s a form of meditation as well as a way of life. Its roots trace back to Buddhism.

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To practice mindfulness meditation, sit down, breathe comfortably, and begin focusing on the present. Worry not about the past or the future. Focus on the now.  Ask yourself, “What am I feeling” or “How do I feel right now?” If any thoughts about the past or the future come up, inspect them for a while, but send them on their way after. Return to focusing on the present.

In your daily life, you can practice mindfulness by focusing on the actions you’re currently doing. Notice how your mind tends to wander while you’re doing mundane things? It happens, for example, when you’re walking or when you’re doing the dishes.

Why Is Mindfulness Important?

Being mindful is not letting your thoughts wander about, even while you’re doing mundane activities. Doing this can help you reduce stress as well as appreciate the present. There’s an emphasis on focusing on the now. By practicing this, you stop yourself from worrying. The things that happened in the past and whatever will happen in the future no longer bother you as they did before.

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If you practice mindfulness regularly, it can improve your well-being and mental health. This technique maintains your stress levels and helps you appreciate the present more. Given this, your mental health and well-being are sure to improve. You’ll find yourself less anxious and more confident about what you’re doing.

By bettering your well-being and the state of your mental health, your physical health will also improve. Mindfulness is also known to lower blood pressure, help in treating heart diseases, and reduce chronic pain.

These are only some of the insights from the 2016 Virginia International Conference on Psychology of Education. Hope to see you next time.

Tips For Managing PTSD In The Family

Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a big problem for many. It becomes a hindrance to your everyday activities. It affects your personal development and in some cases your relationships. In the family, you may have had a father who was a soldier in the past or a brother who may have suffered a traumatic car accident. It pains to see your loved one have PTSD, but it is manageable. Here are five ways to help you hold PTSD in the family.…

I Suffered From PTSD After Giving Birth To My Son

Getting pregnant after a year of marriage makes me and my husband very excited.  I was very confident that I was ready to be a mom.  We frequented my OB’s office to check how the baby is doing.  Months passed by quickly.   The day we’ve been excitedly waiting for finally came.


The Supposed To Be A Happy Day Turned Out To Be A Traumatic Day

Very vividly, I still can remember how the doctors suddenly became tensed and worried while we were in the delivery room.  My OB came to me and whispered that my baby’s condition is quite not beautiful.  My baby was born unconscious with his cord wrapped around his neck.  They urgently moved him to the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) and stayed there even after I was released from the hospital.

We have to go back every day to check on him.  For days, my spirit was crushed seeing his condition.  This was not how I imagined things would be.  I can’t even hold him yet in my arms.  The closest we can get is to embrace the incubator he was in.  It pains me seeing him in there, wondering if he will still make it, but I have to endure.


His image in there is still very clear in my memory.  His tiny body with tubes and wires attached.  I could see him even in my sleep, and it left me crying in the middle of the night.


I Developed Trust Issues

I was the happiest when he was released from the hospital after a month of fighting for his life.  It may look overacting, but I have to protect my son.  I was very detailed in everything, very particular and hands-on when it comes to his care.  I won’t even let just anyone near him.  My nightmares and fear of losing him turned me into this paranoid mom, afraid that I might lose him one day.


It Turned Out I Have A Posttraumatic Stress Disorder

I never thought that there is such a thing as trauma after giving birth.  My son’s pediatrician noticed how overprotective and paranoid I was when it comes to my son, that she talked to me about it.


Many new moms suffer from birth trauma due to various reasons, some of which could be

  • Extended time and painful delivery
  • Having to undergo emergent cesarean section
  • Use of forceps delivery or vacuum extraction
  • Having a baby with a disability
  • Baby being sent to NICU


What I went through could be enough reason to consider PTSD, but of course, I need to see a doctor to confirm.  My feelings (paranoia) that my son’s life is always under threat is a typical symptom.   The frequent nightmares and the self-blame that I might have done something during pregnancy are also determinants for the presence of PTSD.


How Was I Able To Recover?

I talked to my husband about what the pedia told me.   The next day, we visit a psychiatrist.  The psychiatrist said to me things that made me contemplate on my actions.  She was right when she told me that my relationship with my husband and other people around me would be affected by my PTSD.  And very true, sometimes, I find it hard to trust my husband when our son is left alone with him.  I know he felt upset by it sometimes, but he is being considerate of my feelings.



I want to recover from the PTSD that I followed her advice to undergo counseling.  She had me meet with my OB and allowed me to ask the OB questions that are bothering me regarding my son’s condition.    The OB explained once again and precisely what happened, and assured me that my son would grow up a healthy boy, so there’s nothing I have to worry about.


Slowly, I recovered from the PTSD, although I’m not sure yet if I’m ready for another baby.  I am trying my best to be honest with my therapist, and she’s telling me it’s okay.  I just have to take it a day at a time.